The Heartbreak Kid

There are three important things to know about the past. One, it's over. Two, you can't change it. And three, the only thing keeping it alive is the energy you put into holding on to it. This marks another relationship the HERO has gone thru. September started off hot and steamy and ended up in a mystery. It was great while it lasted but like all good things must come to an end! The relationship went swift like the JETS playoff chances for the 2007 season! One could investigate and exam the causes that lead to the demise. That would only lead the HERO wondering if things would be different if certain actions or events would lead to the prevention of The Breakup. Ignorance is bliss because if you don't know something, it can't hurt you. Letting go of the past can be one of the most liberating events in your life. It means allowing what was meant to be and what what not meant to be. People somethings forget it is what it is. It doesn't mean to forget, but it does mean forgive others and yourself. Wisdom begins when you realize that the perfect moment is the one you're in.

HannSolo 911: NYC

The month has started off better than expected. Not only will the hero celebrate his B-day this month. He will actually be in NYC for the first time with his friends from his childhood. For many years he was in Illinois celebrating it with college friends who he has mad love for. Everything is moving along well, joined a gym to get in shape, job is doing great, even his social life has improved. His new shorty, which i will have to get her a new alias once i figure out what i will call her. Was an old girlfriend of my friend. Now i know, how can the hero have relationship with a friends ex. Let me explain or give my side of the story before you past judgement. It has been three years since they broken up. Which is ample amount a time. My friend is also married now and I did tell his friends who are my friends as well that we had a connection. Lets call him Lt. Dan since he is serving our country proud. Once he returns i know he would hold no grudge against me. What i am more worried about is getting deeply involved. I like this girl and we had a connection i felt when we first met many years ago but both of us were in deep committed relationships at the time. That same connection was apparent when we met for drinks for happy hour after work. Who would have guess that both of us would be single at the same time three years later. What really scares me is that i am not ready for anything too serious. I am more concerned with my career and what i planned on doing in the future. The best part is she is also more concerned about her career and hasnt really made me change my lifestyle to accommodate her. There are many stories to come and more updates on the crew. Involving Jango(the problem),R2D2(Mr Nice Guy), Jar Jar (guy on the couch) in later stories. Next Blog will update on all members.

What Dreams May Explain

Sometimes dreams help out more than you think. Dreams often reflect a time or event that has happened in ones lifetime. I know this topic is going away from my original theme of posts but I felt it was my obligation to express my feelings on how I perceive this dream. It started out in my old apartment in Illinois. I was lying on my bed when I woke up in my dream. Next to me was my ex who was sleeping next to me in our apartment that we shared. Usually when one of us wakes up before the other we would wake the other person up. As I tried to wake her up whom I couldn’t. I could tell that she was sleeping due to the fact that she was wrapped up in the blanket which she usually hogs. Confused on why I couldn’t wake her up it became apparent to me that this is a dream. We had been broken up for some time and haven’t lived with each other for more than a year. When I came to this conclusion her body disappeared and a sadness feeling overwhelmed me. All of a sudden these two people appeared and started to cheer my up. Although their faces were not clear to me but I knew that these two were people I trusted and felt very comfortable with. They instructed me to pack up and begin our trip back home. That my time here was done and that I need to move on.
At first I didn’t know what or how I should perceive this dream. It has been months since I had any dreams that involved her. We haven’t spoken to each other in months. Maybe something I did during the day must have triggered this scenario. In no way this is an attempt to rekindle my relationship with my ex. After our last conversation about two months ago we said some harsh words to each other and things ended badly. I guess we tried to convince ourselves that we could still be best friends but in reality that is hard to do with any long relationship. There is too much feelings and memories one needs to put away to be able to function with that person as a friend. Even though I feel that I have moved on, there must be a part of me that is holding on to something in my past.

5 Tips to Increase Your Chances at The Bars!

1. Be Confident

No lady is looking for a man who doesn’t believe in himself. Make eye contact at first and then approach. They want you to make the effort and show that you’re trying your best to get to know them. It’s like a cat and mouse game. The more effort they notice the more appealing you are to them. Be complimentary, but don’t go over board. Most women can tell when you’re blowing smoke up their ass or being sincere.


2. Dress to Impress

Not many girls are attracted to a man who looks like a bum. Small things such as clean nails and shiny shoes do help out. Girls pay attention to the smallest details. Haven’t you notice when a girlfriend remembers your whole wardrobe. She can tell when you buy a new shirt or underwear. Most girls put an effort into getting ready when they go out. They expect the same for you. Besides when you dress up, it makes you feel better and have more confidence. Try it and see how you feel and act in the bar.


3. Humor is good approach.

Most girls will admit that a sense of humor on a guy is very sexy. Women want someone playful whom they can enjoy being around. A man who can laugh at himself is very attractive. This doesn’t mean you should be a Jim Carey and an act like a fool all night. There is a time to be serious and a time to let you guard down.

4. Art of Conversation

Ask questions about your date. Questions that require some time and thought to respond. Make her feel that you’re really interested in what she has to talk about. Appreciate the mind cause the body is what got you the nerve to talk to her in the first place. Besides questions or topics that make her think gives you time to think of what to say next and where to go from there.

5. Reading Body Language is Important

How many times have you seen a girl at a bar and she is yawning, which is a sign that she is bored. This means either no one is paying her attention and could be a time for you to strike. Try! Either way you wont waste your time wonder what if. Pay attention to how they response to your questions and how interested they are in the conversation that your having. You should be able to recognize what sort of a general mood someone is in by the way that they hold themselves. Learning to read body language will give you an idea where the conversation is going, or when its time to pack it up.

Hopefully you can use these generals tips to get your Paris Hilton, Lindsay Lohan, or Riyo Mori. For those who do not recognize the last name I mentioned. She won Miss Universe 2007 and is definitely a hottie! You only fail 100 percent of the time when you dont try! Besides, you will visit many different bars in your life time and might never see the same girl that shot you down a few weeks ago. What do you have to lost but your fears!

Thank You For Drinking!

It has been about one month and half since my arrival back to NYC. My friends and I have been hitting the bars pretty hard to celebrate. We hit the Hispanic bars in Queens to the Korean bars in K-Town. Besides the nationality difference, there isn’t much difference in prices. In fact the bars in Queens were only a dollar or two cheaper per drink than the ones in the city. Beers such as Coronas and Heinekens were about five to six dollars in both boroughs. Which is quite reasonable for drinks in NYC I guess. If you think about it, you’re paying six to seven dollars for cigarettes. Everything in New York is priced up. What really blew my mind was the cost of mixed drinks at some of these places. I was playing eleven dollars for a Grey Goose and Cranberry at Sutton Place which is on 54st and 2nd ave. I didn’t mind since the drinks were kinda strong and there were many attractive young ladies throughout the night at this bar. The crowd didn’t die out till about fifteen minutes past three am. Long Islands in K-town were expensive. The drinks cost us about fourteen dollars per Long Island. I felt that’s quite expensive for a drink. Although the drinks were strong and had numerous cute female bartenders, that is still a steep price to pay. If you can afford it than what the hell! Drinks are on you. Next Friday (July 20, 2007), I will be attending the Ice Bar for Obi-Wan’s Birthday Bash. Most of my peoples from New Rochelle should be there. The week after that, it will be C-3PO bachelor party in the city. My wallet is already feeling the burn but hey, your only young once. Best make the most out of it.

Fantastic Four: The Fall of Jango

It all starts out on a Saturday night at Jango’s house. The pre game drinking involves Absolut Vodka and orange juice. A Great way to start the night without having to hurt your wallet at the bar trying to get a buzz. We decided to hit Nevada Smith's on 3 Ave & 14th St. There was Jango Fett, R2-D2(aka Artoo), Chewbacca (aka Chewy) and the Han Solo (aka Da Hero) on this mission to meet women. Of course I am driving as always since my boyz tend to get wasted beyond the point of no return. Recently Jango broken up with his girlfriend whom he has been dating for many years. It has been a week since he decided that they should go their separate ways. She called him that night to meet up with her and her friend at Nevada Smith's. The plan was to hook up R2-D2 with her friend who was her sorority sister. The only problem with this plan is that Jango and his girlfriend are not together anymore. It has only been a few days since they broke up and they are gonna need time to grow without each other. This can only lead to problems when alcohol is involved. I have nothing against his ex. I like her as a person and thought she was a very nice girlfriend for my boy. But Jango has his heart somewhere else. He wants to meet other woman and be free from his ex. He knows it’s not right to keep leading this girl on cause in reality he likes her as a friend and doesn’t want to hurt her. Jango doesn’t just see her as a piece of meat that he could have a "friends with benefits" relationship with. If he can keep this relationship as friends and not lead this girl on when he’s drunk than this plan might work after all. What happens! He gets drunk and they are making out by the nights end. R2-D2 is making good progress and looks like he will be leaving early with her sorority sister. Artoo is short on money since we have been drinking all night and city life is expensive. But we all rally together and give him whatever cash we can spare. What is a few bucks for a friend in need. (Now Im broke in the city and all I have left are my credit cards) They leave! Everyone thought R2-D2 and this girl would be great together since they have many things in common. For instance, they went to the same college, have similar backgrounds, match up well in height and most likely share the same values. This leaves Chewy and his wingman Han Solo to navigate around the bar and pick up single women. So Chewy and da hero are trying their best to dance and hook up with the women whom seem to be having a good time on the dance floor. We snag a group (6 to 7 girls of all sort of sizes) to dance with. With this many girls in the group we figure at least two of them would be interested in us since the numbers are in our favor. The thing is they came in for only 30 mins to pre game for the club. The problem now is that we are both short on cash and are not dress for the club. Da hero has jeans on and chewy is wearing shorts. They seemed sorry to leave us but they are having a girl’s night out and want to the hit club already. This is where the turning point of the night for us. We hit the peak of the night and the crowd started to die down and the prospects started fading away. We figured at least R2-D2 has prospered from this night. Jango is drunk but at least he has someone to hold and share an intimate time with. Unfortunately we see Artoo walking in and start talking about how lame she was. I knew that from the beginning because she didn’t want to drink with us once we got there, and was kinda quiet throughout the night. But that is because Chewy and I tried to distance ourselves from her so that R2-D2 would get a better chance of knowing her. They seem to be a good match. Honestly she looked like a girl that would want a serious relationship right away and would require high maintenance to keep. Not that there’s anything wrong with that but I recently came off a very serious and long relationship. I would prefer not to start another long and serious relationship for at least a few months. Artoo was kinda down that he couldn’t close the deal but I reinsured him that everyone strikes out from time to time. It is what you do after that builds character. So at the end of the night, I drove everyone home. When we got to Jango’s home he was sober enough to realize that it would be best if his ex would go home instead of spending the night. To avoid the outward mourning they would have the next day. This made his ex sad and maybe she thought things was gonna get better or that there was still a possibility for them to reunite. So I drove her home and the rest of the gang too. Everyone had a good time but I guess everyone wanted it to end differently in their own way. No one really got the girl or guy they wanted. In retrospect, Dont hang out with your ex girlfriend or boyfriend unless your both finally over each other. It's not fair for the person who might still have strong feelings for the other individual. You wouldn't want to feel that way or go thru this experience. On the bright side, Lucky I didn’t get stop by the police or fall asleep on the road. Usually takes me about 25 mins to get back to my place after dropping my boyz off in Queens. Da hero has never been stop by police or got any accidents (knock on wood) while driving home. Trust me, I have had my shares of adventurous rides home but this time I didn’t get sloppy drunk. Just wanted to get home and lay down on my own bed.

Da Hero Returns Home!

Let me first give a description of myself. For the past few years I have been living the good life in Illinois. Raised in Queens NYC all my life I decided to attend college in the Midwest. Thinking I would get more work done there but I realize that is all not true. They party like a rock-star out there as well. After finishing school and breaking up with my girlfriend (3 yrs relationship) which itself is another long story. I decided to head back to the Home of the Brave (NYC) and start my life fresh. Most of my childhood friends still live in NY but a few have moved and now live all over the States. Most of my family is here in NY. All names have been changed to protect the innocent. I don’t want my boys getting in trouble or feeling embarrassed of any events that I write on the blog. My friends usually refer to me as the “Da Hero”. Not because I always do the right thing or that I get the girl at the end. These days I have been batting like Carlos Delgado if u watch baseball and are a Mets fan you would get my metaphor. I am a Buddhist by heart and try to follow most of the righteous path. Although it is hard at times, I do strafe away from time to time and make mistakes. Whatever I write here will detail my nights out and what exciting events happen if any to me or my peoples.